We won't tell you if it's gaslighting. We'll show you where accounts change

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Why we don't give a verdict

Gaslighting describes behaviour and intent over time. A chat export shows only the messages: not the calls, the conversations in person or what anyone meant. Putting that label on someone from a chat would claim more than the messages can show, so we don't. No statement is labelled true or false, and nobody is called honest or dishonest.

What the report shows instead

• The record and the later account: the message where something was said or agreed, and the message that denies or rewrites it, quoted with their dates.
• The kind of change: a flat denial, a minimising (“it was only one message”) or a reversal (“you said that, not me”).
• Feelings dismissed and blame moved, quoted as they were written.
• The other explanations weighed for each finding: a genuine mix-up, a later change of plan, a different message, sarcasm, or a disagreement about what a message meant.
• How sure each reading is, in words, and what further messages would change it.

The same rules for everyone

Every check is run on every participant, including you. The same person can deny something one day and be the one contradicted the next, and the report shows both. Where there is no instance for someone, it says so plainly. See how a finding is set out in the sample report

What a chat can't show

An export is only part of the story. Calls, meetings and other chats are outside what the report can see, and finding nothing in the messages doesn't mean nothing happened. If what you are living with frightens you, the support lines at the top of this page can help you think it through.

Questions people ask

Can it tell me whether I'm being gaslit?

No. It doesn't decide whether anyone is gaslighting and it doesn't label people. It shows where one person's account of events differs from what the chat recorded, with both messages quoted, and leaves the judgement to you.

Which report should I choose?

Denial and contradiction patterns. It looks for denials, minimising and blame in the messages, for every participant. Claim consistency suits you better if you want to see whether each person's account holds together over time.

Will it say who is right?

No. About a statement, it only says whether the messages support it, partly support it, contradict it or don't say enough. It quotes both sides and says how sure it is.

Is the report proof of what happened?

No. It is an AI reading of the messages you supply, not legal evidence and not an expert report. It can help you see the messages clearly and decide what to do next.

Start with a free preview

Upload the export and a short free preview runs first, so you can see the chat was read correctly. If you want the full report, you see an itemised quote before you pay. Reports start from $13.99 / £10.99. Get my free preview

The sample report is built from a made-up chat, so you can see how findings are set out before you upload your own. See a sample report